As my favourite band says “opinions like arseholes on days like today, everyone’s got one” and don’t we all know it!
Now, I know one of the biggest pet peeves of a new mum is the sudden influx of opinions of everyone you’ve ever met on how to raise your kid. But, seriously, it’s true.
People probably don’t even realise they’re doing it, but unless a new mum has specifically asked for your advice, the best thing to do is keep schtum.
As a new mum, you question everything: ‘am I doing this right?’; ‘is my baby ok?’; ‘do I feed them too often/too little?’; ‘should I do it this way?’, etc. It’s a minefield. The last thing you need is an opinion from a well-meaning relative, friend or stranger saying what you should do. This isn’t limited to those who are parents either, people who aren’t often chirp up too. Just don’t. Whether you’re well meaning or not, just ssshhh.
Now, there are some opinions you’ll really value. They’re usually the ones you ask for. Unsolicited advice hasn’t helped me this far in life, so I don’t think I’ll need it.
If you do find yourself on the receiving end of some advice you didn’t ask for, just smile, nod and say “yeah, maybe”. Then ignore then and do what you think is right. If it feels right to you, then it is.